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One of the key traits that humans possess
is the ability to communicate. Communication is key to being
able to transfer complicated knowledge from one individual
to another. Some of this communication is done verbally, but
a surprising proportion is non-verbal communication. Non-verbal
communication allows us to tell if someone is being serious,
what emotions they are feeling, give a general indication
of character and much more.
There are different types of non-verbal communications for
example:
Facial expression >> Gestures >> Eye contact >>
Posture >> Proximity and Proxemics >> Flirting
>> Body Language
Facial Expressions
Facial expressions result from one or more motions or positions
of the muscles of the face. They can be used to identify the
emotional state of an individual, for example a smile is a
sign of happiness. Although some facial expressions are voluntary,
others such as disgust can be involuntary.
As faces have a limited range of movement, some faces can
be falsely read as conveying an emotion due to the large variations
in individuals faces.
Gestures
Gestures are signs or symbols made with the hands. Gestures
are often used by a speaker to help explain what he is talking
about. A speaker may say "it was this big" and then
use their hands to indicate a size.
Eye contact
Eye contact occurs when 2 people look into each others eyes
at the same time. It can be a sign of an intense or emotional
occurrence or a soon-forgotten event. The meaning of eye contact
varies with circumstance and cultures. The term Eye Aversion
refers to the avoidance of eye contact.
People often unconsciously probe each other's eyes and faces
for positive or negative signs, but in some contexts, the
meeting of eyes arouses strong emotions. These include:
Romantic attraction: Lovers gaze into each other's
eyes as an expression of their love or desire for one another.
Intimidation and status: Often eye contact is held
during intimidation or bullying as a way of displaying dominance.
Trust: In many western cultures, non-aggressive eye
contact can be a sign of trust and friendship.
Respect: In some cultures, a lack of eye contact can
show respect.
Examples of non-emotional eye contact are:
Communicating attention: A person's direction of gaze
may indicate to others where his or her attention lies.
Facilitating learning: Recent studies suggests that
eye contact has a positive impact on the retention and recall
of information and may promote more efficient learning
Pupil Dilation
The dilation of the pupils is an increase in the diameter
of the pupils as they get bigger to take in more light as
it gets darker. Dilating pupils is also indicative of interest.
One can subconsciously tell if the other person is eager to
see them by the size of the pupils in the other persons eyes.
When the pupils are large in normal lighting conditions, the
persons eagerness and alert perception is noticed. A person
with fake interest would be smiling and showing positive gestures,
but their pupils would remain small, thus giving the person
away.
Shining Eyes
The eyes have a tiny gland on the bottom of the eyelid secreting
liquids such as tears for use as lubrication. When a person
is interested or excited, the glands tend to secrete liquid
thus giving the eyes a shiny appearance.
During courtship, shining eyes are used extensively to indicate
a sign or attraction in the other person. When describing
a guy, the girl might say "there was something in his
eyes." "The lover's eyes" is another term used
to mark their characteristic appearance.
In practice, it is very hard to have shining eyes without
having genuine intentions, therefore there is the belief that
people can tell one another's motives subconsciously through
face to face interaction.
Shining Eyes combined with Pupil Dilation subconsciously communicate
enthusiasm and warmth towards the subject.
Posture
Posture is most likely one of the most common forms of body
language. It can convey confidence and interest or coward-ness
and boredom.
Proximity and Proxemics
The term Proxemics is used to describe the measurable
distances or proximity between people as they interact. There
a certain distances for each culture for interacting:
Intimate distance for embracing, touching or whispering
(15-45 cm, 6-18 inches)
Personal distance for interactions among good friends
(45-120 cm, 1.5-4 feet)
Social distance for interactions among acquaintances
(1.2-3.5 m, 4-12 ft)
Public distance used for public speaking (over 3.5
m, 12 ft)
The distance of a person often indicates their feelings with
a closer distance being more personal and friendly.
Flirting
It is very common for some flirting signals to be misinterpreted,
for example a woman's touching her hair when first meeting
a man. The touching of hair is often misread as a sign of
fondness or lust when in reality it may only indicate interest.
This can often lead to a guy asking for a phone number, making
the situation clumsy and confusing to both parties.
Flirting may consist of stylized gestures, language, body
language, postures, and physiologic signs, some of which are
also part of foreplay. Among these, at least in Western society,
are:
Examples
Closed versus
Open
Some persons form a barrier: arms crossed, legs crossed, or
holding an object in front of themselves. Their body is closed.
It is better to seek persons who have arms apart, legs uncrossed,
and are facing in your direction; their body is open.
As an exception, if two persons like themselves well, then
they might close their bodies while standing or sitting opposite
each other. These persons are acting open; their bodies are
only closed because they are closed to themselves.
Leaning Forward versus Away
When sitting at a table, persons can either lean forward or
away. If you lean forward, then you are more visible to other
persons at the table; it is easier to converse with other
persons who lean forward.
In contrast, leaning backward, away from the table, is a sign
of disinterest. However, a person that leans backward but
has their body open might simply be relaxing. Try using some
jokes or humor to gain the interest of this person so that
they begin leaning forward.
Therefore, if you want to invite someone home, or plan another
social meeting with them, suggest making the invitation when
the other person or persons are leaning forward with open
bodies. Invite the person to meet with you for coffee or some
other beverage, or tell them to write their telephone number,
even if they must write it with your pen on your arm.
Rapport
Rapport is the technique of mimicking the body language of
the other person. If your body language mirrors the body language
of other persons in the conversation, then your are implementing
rapport. For example:
- If you are approaching a sitting person, you sit too.
- If the body of the other person is closed, avoid being open;
that would seem intrusive.
Other persons sometimes check if you mirror their body language,
and have more interest in persons with rapport. For the converse,
you can check if the other person mirrors you.
Definitions
Binocular Disparity
The difference between the two retinal images of an object.
Because the right and the left eye are at slightly different
positions from each other, they have to turn inwards in order
to keep focus on an object as it approaches closer. The closer
the object the more the eyes turn inwards. A listener can
tell how alert the other person is by the angle or the eyes
turning inwards. Binocular Disparity is what allows up to
have three dimensional vision.
While talking to a person, subconsciously one can tell if
the other person is paying attention. The more a listener
focuses their vision on the speaker, the more the eyes turn
inwards. A listener whose eyes are both turned straight forward
reveals that he's not paying attention. Even though there
is eye contact, the eyes should be turned in slightly in order
to focus on the speaker.
Binocular Disparity can be used to subconsciously communicate
relaxation or aggression. By focusing the eyes on a dot on
the other person's face, one is perceived to be alert. Maintaining
focus on the dot for longer time would make the person appear
as aggressive or even angry such as zeroing in on a target.
On the contrary, looking at the whole face of the other person,
and unfocusing the eyes, makes one come across as relaxed
and friendly or even easy going. Unfocusing the eyes can be
used as an aid in argument resolution. The decreased angle
of the eyes turning inward makes one look as having relaxed.
As a result, the other person sees a relaxed look of the eyes
and tends to relax himself.
Cut Off / Facing Away
A form of gaze avoidance or intrusion avoidance in which
the head or the whole body is turned fully away to one side.
A sudden cut-off gesture in conversation may indicate uncertainty
or disagreement with a speaker's remarks. Sustained cut-off
may reveal shyness or disliking.
A cut off is a form of angular distance. People also turn
away as a form of being considerate and giving the other person
space in a setting where moving away physically is impractical.
During an intermission, the candidates in a debate would respectfully
turn away, so as to give each other room to breathe.
In salesmanship, looking suddenly up and to the side is a
signal of the prospects skepticism. The sales agent themselves
could turn their head or the whole body to the side to make
their presence less pushy to the prospect. While walking away
discourages prospects because of the retreating nature, the
cut off can be used as a substitute for angular distance.
Facing away is a reaction to spatial invasion either one's
own of the other persons. After the host and the various guests
embrace, they back off and one or both always look away as
an equilibrium-maintaining technique to re-establish a proper
level of proximity.
Males and people of greater physical size turn their heads
away to the side more than do females and people of smaller
stature who in turn find it more comfortable and easier to
create distance by walking.
Both gaze aversion and torso rotation increase dramatically
in conditions of crowding.
Dancing as a Seduction Tool
Dancing is one of those things that can either greatly
enhance or totally destroy your chances to score depend on
how good you are at it. Many guys would actually be better
off just standing around trying to look cool, if the alternative
is dancing badly. Women treat dancing as a form of "safe
sex" (a fun, sensual activity without any of the risks
or downsides of actual sex), and a guy's ability to close-contact
dance with women is often viewed by them as an indicator of
sexual ability.
There's a certain breed of guy called "the dance partner".
This guy likes to hang out all night in clubs, dance for hour
after hour with many women, and go home with none of them.
He might either be gay, or simply have no idea on how to translate
the dancing into sex.
A famous receiver for the Oakland Raiders named Fred Biletnikoff
used to say that "if you can put your hands on a pass,
you should be able to catch it. If you have a woman in your
arms, you should be able to get her into your bed. Dancing
is an excellent way to get her into your arms. If she is with
a group of girls, ask everyone at the table to dance one by
one and work over to the one you want. If they are sitting
there drinking and talking, watching the dance floor and keeping
time to the music, they are ready to dance. Go ask, if they
say no, laugh and have your comeback line ready. I have had
girls that said no come back to me and want to know why I
didn't ask them again. Usually those are the one's that go
home with you too. I would say that 9 1/2 out of ten girls
I ask to dance, go out on the floor with me. Energize them,
then let things flow. Firm but gentle works most of the time."
Ears, Right Ear vs. Left Ear
If you're stuck chatting up a "mumbler" (someone
who will mumble their words instead of speaking clearly) at
a cocktail party, lean in with your right ear. It's better
than your left at following the rapid rhythms of speech, according
to researchers at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine.
If, on the other hand, you're trying to identify a song playing
softly in the elevator, turn your left ear toward the sound.
The left ear is better at picking up music tones.
Eyebrow Raise
The tendency for people to raise their eyebrows as one
approaches them fact-to-face is usually indicative of esteem.
If you walk down the street and encounter someone you don't
know then the chances are that neither of you will raise your
eyebrows. If you recognize each other, however, even if you
do not greet each another, then eyebrows will likely raise
and lower. Of particular interest here in a business-place
context is that if one person is not rated highly by the other
person then that person will not raise their eyebrows, even
though they acknowledge the presence of the first person.
While meeting a person, briefly raise and lower the eyebrows
to communicate greetings as the person enters your scope of
vision. When accompanied by a slight backwards head tilt,
the greeting gesture can be made to come across as very sincere
and genuine. Both the zygomatic smile and the eyebrow movement
are very popular body language tools used by sales people
and politicians.
Hugging (Rocking)
Primate holding in the arms, a natural mothering response,
is met with clinging, an infantile sign of needing to be mothered.
Thus, embracing is the evolutionary correct way to say "I
love you," and the proper primate way to say "I
need you" as well. As humans embrace, a gentle rocking
motion from side to side occurs. Swaying, a positive sign,
stimulates pleasure centers linked to the inner ear's vestibular
sense. Not only do we rock babies, but also the adults we
love.
Kinesics
The importance of body language is recognized worldwide
- there will not be a training for sales people and management
in which the study of body language is absent, for instance.
In 1970 Julius Fast wrote his famous book "Body Language."
In it he writes about the study of the language of the body
and called it: kinesics. More recent developed theories on
human functioning have given life to Neuro Linguistic Programming.
NLP uses body language as its main source of information to
tell more about the way we operate as people, by ourselves
or when we are together. For instance, we adjust our body
position all the time to our environment when we are in company
or in a public place. It has been researched that we have
a higher success rate of getting our message across to another
when we take on a similar position as him/her. Unconsciously
we copy the others? movements like crossing and uncrossing
legs, turning our bodies this way or that. In NLP this process
is called modeling and could also be referred to as building
rapport.
Love Signals
A great deal of our nonverbal communication bespeaks sexuality.
Despite speech, courtship is best transacted in an unspoken
medium through, e.g., lip-pouts, head-tilts, and shoulder-shrugs.
Verbally saying "I love you" before showing love
nonverbally in gesture, posture, and deed is apt to scare
a partner away.
The lesson here? Don't tell a girl "I love you"
too soon. Instead use body language gestures and nonverbal
communication to show your feelings of interests. If you tell
her your feelings, but you're too nervous and your body language
in not in tune, she might perceive your verbal speech as insincere.
First try to use non verbal signals. See also Rapport and
Mirroring.
Masculinity
"Keep shoulders broad but posture not *too* straight;
keep eye contact; look other men in the eye and don't do the
"down & away"; don't cover face unless you are
acting mischievous; slow movements; deep tonality; move from
either the hips or the shoulders (generally); broad arm movements;
move with a sense that you occupy a great deal of space —
that you have a large domain or territory; make your eyes
expressive of emotion and not of excitement; don't be afraid
to grab her or "handle" her — **be able to
guide her** and have the confidence to do so: learn to really
dance (waltz, salsa, samba, flamenco, etc.) and this'll become
second nature." alt.seduction.fast
Right Brain vs. Left Brain
This theory of the structure and functions of the mind
suggests that the two different sides of the brain control
two different "modes" of thinking.
Experimentation has shown that the two different sides, or
hemispheres, of the brain are responsible for different manners
of thinking. The following table illustrates the differences
between left-brain and right-brain thinking:
Left Brain:
Right Brain:
Some individuals have a distinct preference
for one of these styles of thinking. Some, are more whole-brained
and equally adept at both modes. In general, academia tend
to favor left-brain modes of thinking, while downplaying the
right-brain ones. Left-brain scholastic subjects focus on
logical thinking, analysis, and accuracy. Right-brained subjects,
on the other hand, focus on aesthetics, feeling, and creativity.
Pacing and Leading
Pacing and leading is one of the keys to influencing people.
It refers to meeting them at their map of the world (pacing)
and then taking them where you want them to go (leading.)
Rapport is a basic, behavioral signal that you have met someone
at their map of the world. The simplest, most effective test
for rapport is "if you lead, they follow."
2) Choose a safe situation to practice mirroring an element
of someone else?s behavior. When you have mirrored them for
a while, and think you are in rapport with the person, scratch
your nose. If they lift their hand to their face within the
next minute or so, congratulate yourself ? you have led their
behavior!
Skilled communicators have a wide range of behaviors they
can mirror to build rapport. You can find a way to mirror
virtually anything you can observe.
3) Increase the range of behaviors that you can mirror, and
introduce deliberate rapport-building into situations where
it will benefit you and others (nb. Use your common sense
and choose low-risk situations to practice in.)
Note: It is possible to get rapport without pacing by being
outrageous and/or dynamic in a way that drawn in the audience
and catches their attention.
See Also: Mirroring, Rapport
Pupil Dilation
The dilation of the pupils is an increase in the diameter
of the pupils as they get bigger to take in more light as
it gets darker. Dilating pupils is also indicative of interest.
One can subconsciously tell if the other person is eager to
see them by the size of the pupils in the other persons eyes.
When the pupils are large in normal lighting conditions, the
persons eagerness and alert perception is noticed. A person
with fake interest would be smiling and showing positive gestures,
but their pupils would remain small, thus giving the person
away.
Pupil Dilation combined with Shining Eyes and Binocular Disparity
could be used in communicating enthusiasm and warmth towards
the subject.
Push Pull Technique
In the song Yellow by Coldplay, Chris Martin demonstrates
using body language a Push Pull example.
"Because I love you so". Stops, looks back, turns
around, gives you a chance to leave, gives you space. Then
when he sees that you really do want him, you would wait for
him and you in the camera are there slowing down to stay with
him. The camera was moving gradually along the beach and he
was walking forward along the beach. Both he and the camera
were together, that is how we could see him, and now that
he slows down, we see that we are slowing down for him. But
he doesn't make us, the audience wait, he is the one who comes
back. The camera is staying there, looking at him and he comes
back, tight after he looks around first: Push, Pull.
Make your move, then if the girl's not going for it by saying
yes right away, just give some space. If she waits for you
to come back; she's yours.
Reconnaissance
Upon re-entering our home (after several hours of absence),
we feel a peculiar need to wander about the space to "check"
for intruders. In mammals, this behavior is known as reconnaissance:
". . . in which the animal moves round its range in a
fully alerted manner so that all its sense organs are used
as much as possible, resulting in maximal exposure to stimuli
from the environment. It thus 'refreshes its memory' and keeps
a check on everything in its area. This is a regular activity
in an already familiar environment, which does not require
the stimulus of a strange object.
Shining Eyes
The eyes have a tiny gland on the bottom of the eyelid
secreting liquids such as tears for use as lubrication. When
a person is interested or excited, the glands tend to secrete
liquid thus giving the eyes a shiny appearance.
During courtship, shining eyes are used extensively to indicate
a sign or attraction in the other person. When describing
a guy, the girl might say "there was something in his
eyes." "The lover's eyes" is another term used
to mark their characteristic appearance.
In practice, it is very hard to have shining eyes without
having genuine intentions, therefore there is the belief that
people can tell one another's motives subconsciously through
face to face interaction.
Shining Eyes combined with Pupil Dilation and Binocular Disparity
subconsciously communicate enthusiasm and warmth towards the
subject.
Symmetry
The body plans of most animals, including humans, exhibit
mirror symmetry, also called bilateral symmetry. They are
symmetric about a plane running from head to tail (or toe).
Bilateral symmetry is so prevalent in the animal kingdom that
many scientists think that it can't be a coincidence. After
all, there are infinitely more ways to construct an asymmetrical
body than a symmetrical one. And yet, fossilized evidence
shows that bilateral symmetry had already taken hold in animals
as early as 500 million years ago.
Therefore, bilateral symmetry must have evolved for a reason,
the thinking goes. And over the years, scientists have come
up with a number of hypotheses about what that reason might
be. According to one, a body that is bilaterally symmetrical
is easier for the brain to recognize while in different orientations
and positions, thus making visual perception easier.
Another popular hypothesis is that symmetry evolved to help
with mate selection. Experiments with birds and insects revealed
that females prefer to mate with males possessing the most
symmetrical sexual ornaments. Peahens, for example, prefer
peacocks with more extravagant and symmetrical tails, and
female barn swallows prefer males with long, symmetrical tail
feathers.
Human experiments also show similar patterns.
Experiments have found that women are more attracted to men
who have features that are more symmetrical than other men.
One study even found that women have more orgasms during sex
with men who were more symmetrical, regardless of their level
of romantic attachment or the guys' sexual experience.
The connection between body symmetry and mate selection began
to make sense when researchers started finding correlations
between symmetry and health. One study found that men with
asymmetric faces tend to suffer more from depression, anxiety,
headaches and even stomach problems. Women with facial asymmetry
are less healthy and more prone to emotional instability and
depression.
Another study found that the more asymmetric a person's body
was, the more likely they were to show signs of aggression
when provoked.
Symmetry is also prevalent in the physical sciences and is
woven into the very laws that govern our universe.
Tapping
Tapping is a defensive gesture or a warning sign for a
person not to come any closer. It doesn't necessarily mean
that one wants the other person to leave, unless the tapping
becomes very loud and even audible from a distance, which
is then the area from which the person doing the tapping wants
the people around them to clear.
It is not an aggressive signal, but that of mainly wanting
to hold things off, not come any close, keep things the way
they are. The auditory effect of the tapping also has the
verbal effect of not wanting to be disturber with conversation.
The sound itself is meant to block of other sound as another
person might try to speak and has a psychological effect of
distracting the brains auditory cortex. It's like turning
on the radio to distract oneself from noisy neighbors arguing
across the hall, or pretending to be listening to a Walkman
when someone is trying to start a conversation.
Tapping in a physical sense also serves to designate one's
territory. In a classroom setting or an office environment,
one might tap their pencil against the side of the table meaning
that he/she's busy so that nobody sits next to them in order
to maintain the concentration.
Tense Eyes
The eyes themselves don't tense as much as the eye lids
around them and in tense situation, more particularly the
lower eye lids. The eye lids close in around the eyes limiting
their vision and in effect having an expression of zeroing
in or targeting someone. When the eye lids are smaller it's
hard to see the surrounding area, so the person has one location
in their scope of vision in mind. It is the opposite of open
body language and a sign of closed body language. In open
body language a person is friendly willing and receptive.
When the eyes are smaller, they are showing that they are
not receptive. They are focused on one particular area of
importance usually because it is perceived as a threat or
a source of trouble.
The eyes can also be tense sometimes when a person is concentrating
on a task, such as reading an important document, or working
on an assignment, however, when dealing with personal interaction,
tense eyes are very specifically associated with unfriendliness
or hostility. Tensing of the eyelids could also help one so
see better as the tension helps in the shaping of the eyes
to focus. When a person is working on a task and not involved
in a social setting, tense eyes would indeed be a method for
the person to focus better. In a social setting people have
adapted to use tense eyes as a means of communicating suspicion
or wariness, particularly of an intellectual basis as opposed
to emotional or personal.
A tense or unfriendly expression in the eyes is a sign that
the person is disliking something that is something analytical
or of technical nature. For instance when one's wife has tense
eyes it could mean that she doesn't trust her husband in something
like doing the bills or renovating the house. It doesn't mean
that she's suspecting him of having an affair or believes
he's forming an emotional attachment with another woman. The
eyes mainly reveal thought processes and not matters of the
hearth, unless a person evaluates their personal relationships
on an analytical level, which is rarely so.
Tense Mouth
Tense mouth is indicative of hostility or disagreement.
It is closely related to the usage of the lower teeth which
are associated with unfriendliness. It is an attempt to hide
or not show off the lower teeth or make an offensive gesture
with the mouth while in conversation with someone not particularly
liked.
A tense mouth is visible through flattening and thinning of
the lips. As opposed to full lips, the person is subconsciously
tensing their lips in effect making them seem smaller and
less visible. The lips are a very friendly and encouraging
part of the face. When a person doesn't like someone, they
inevitably find it hard to show their lips as a way of saying
that they are not happy and they are not inviting. At the
same time the person is trying not to show off their lower
teeth too much, although this might happen, as this could
be a very offensive and at times inappropriate display of
facial expression.
The opposite of a tense mouth would be the lower lip protrusion,
plumping lips (as in flirting), showing upper teeth and in
effect smiling.
Through Look
Psychological technique to get oneself unattached to a
particular person by not avoiding them in the field of vision,
and at the same time to slowing down to make eye contact,
so as to be uninfluenced. Used very often by public speakers.
Pubic speakers are trained to make eye contact, to scan the
room and at the same time not fixate on any one particular
person or area. The purpose is to give everyone recognition
and a chance to speak up, if a member of the audience has
a question, but not to be otherwise distracted by any one
particular person or object.
Touch (First Touch)
The first touch — a milestone in courtship —
is likely to seem casual, unpremeditated, and "accidental"
rather than serious. An eager hand reaches out to a neutral
body part (a forearm or shoulder, e.g.) which reacts by accepting
the contact or by pulling away. Sensitive pads of our fingertips
used as tactile antennae gauge the slightest startle, tenseness,
or hesitation of response.
Negative replies include angling away, leaning away, and no
reaction.
Positive responses include
a. lifting the shoulders, shoulder shrug b. sidewards head-tilt,
and c. returning the touch with a touch.
Thus, partners learn a great deal from the first manual contact,
which deftly probes beneath spoken words to feelings. Touching
another's body captures full attention, and is the evolutionary
true test of where a partner stands.
Touching
Research shows: "Wives under stress are soothed by
husbands' touch."
Casual touching is one of the most powerful attraction triggers.
The soothing effect of the touch could be seen in MRI scans
of areas deep in the brain that are involved in registering
emotional and physical alarm.
The 'touch' most commonly referred to is hand holding. There
are other important reasons for holding her hand, but as this
research confirms, it has an INSTANT soothing affect.
It is believed that casual touching, and hand holding in particular
has a massive effect on success in long term relationships.
Researcher notes that this effect is many times more powerful
with married couples, but even a complete stranger STILL had
an effect on the woman?s brain. It is possible for a total
stranger, can trigger a soothing effect on any woman, DEEP
in her subconscious mind, simply through the use of a simple
touch.
Verbal Plumage - The lip sinking that is attractive in
men and unattractive in women
Verbal Plumage is quite simply using exaggerated facial
expressions and lips and mouth movement to talk with the face.
We all move our lips and faces when we talk to deliver the
sound. Verbal plumage is just that same facial behaviors to
a greater volume especially when saying pleasant, soft or
deep sounds. What ever kind of movement you make with your
mouth and lips when you say words like "you", "on",
"feel", "between", "inside",
"deep", "always", "forever",
"no other" etc. Girls like those words. They are
just words to us guys, but to them they have special significance
when we say it. The word "special" is another word.
When you say those words exaggerate the lip movement part
of the word as if it has special significance for you too.
Girls love that. They feel special when they hear those words,
and you adding verbal plumage to it makes the word that much
more profound as if you really mean it.
Verbal plumage doesn't have to be any particular words. Verbal
plumage on it's own is simply talking with the face by definition.
To use it in the context of seduction would be to increase
verbal plumage at particular words and phrases that have deep
meaning and feeling attached to them.
Imagine you are talking to a deaf persona and you are trying
to make your self understood. Imagine the extra kind of lip
sinking you would do to express yourself. Do just that, but
only do it with the right words when you are saying words
that are pleasant to girls when they hear them. Here are some
more words that girls like when you say them:
intention true reality no choice I want appreciation sincere
trust come on yes
In comparison, words like: call, go out, maybe, I don't know,
no, number, meet etc. Girls don't like those words. They hear
them all the time when guys try to hit on them and get their
digits. Say less of those words, and when you do use them
you are a ventriloquist at the time.
Girls are already very expressive and feeling when they talk.
It's not attractive in a woman to use verbal plumage because
that makes her even more touchy freely clingy when she talks.
But it a guy, it makes him come by as caring and in touch
with his feelings when talking to women.
Voice Training
Right before you call stand up and hum a little bit at
a moderate to deep tone — it'll improve the sound of
your voice over the phone
Zygomatic Smile
A very "pleasant" smile, and one of the most
sincere types of smiles which is very hard to produce on demand,
is the zygomatic smile. A zygomatic smile is the real item,
a genuine heartfelt smile that involves upturned corners of
the mouth, wrinkling at the eyes, or crow's feet, and utilizes
very many more facial muscles than we can easily control voluntarily.
It is therefore virtually impossible to fake the zygomatic
smile, and most of us, while not necessarily knowing it, can
distinguish it from a "phony" smile.
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